Mom's Cooking

I try to make a point to see my mom at least on alternate Fridays

most of the time now, without Brendan. because i know that my mom is more relaxed without his presence. 

because he sometimes he is impatient or has strong comments.

most of my relatives are not at ease with people who are opinionated 

I often joke with Brendan that he is not a welcomed figure and he understands it and is often so sweet, he lets me go spend time with my mom and other relatives without tagging along.

I am glad that my relationship with Brendan is very open, honest, and mature. 

I don't know if there is anything to do with my Enneagram or Astrology or character, but freedom is a very important thing for me.

I hate people telling me what to do, and especially what not to do. 

you know the song?.. from movie - The First Wives' Club - "you don't know me,......don't tell me what to do...... and don't tell me what to say, just let me be myself,... don't put me on display"...

I don't know how I end up telling you this in this entry but there was once, i was with a friend and we were at kind of a cafe at a cinema complex and that cafe had very high ceiling but whatever the case, the table behind me sat one guy and a girl opposite him. that guy was lecturing his girlfriend about how she disgraced him in front of his family (i think the context was that she went zouk and either got drunk or high or something along that line when she got to his place) and he went on and on and on about "so you enjoyed it! behaving like that! you think you are so cool! or whatever,, i can't remember, but he was a bastard talking to her like that. it went on for like a whole 15 mins and the girl just sat there looking i think a bit passive. I hated it but it was not my business. but if it happened now, i would tell the girl to just leave the guy. i don't know, i may be wrong, because maaaaybe, just maybe, you can say that maybe that is the way the guy shows his "care". but no. i disagree. the whole time he was caring about his face and disgrace. well, back to the point of me telling you this. ok, so i told my friend "if i were the girl, i'll walk away. i don't need a guy like that"    the punch line was my friend said that she got it worse from her BF (NOW EX). i went dumb and couldn't say another word.  come on, girl, what's happening?  ya, i agree some of us may be doing silly or even dangerous things like getting drunk but this is part and parcel of growing up, and may i add, "building of character" or "discovering yourself". whatever.  and this,  is also freedom my friends. freedom to make mistakes is freedom too. everybody deserves the freedom to make mistakes. 

i'm done. talking.